One of the popular phrases of 2016 was “the struggle is real.”

Usually, the phrase was presented in the context of something not so insufferable, what we often refer to as “first world problems.”

For example, “The take-out guy messed up my order. The struggle is real.” Or, “I’m so tired, I can barely make it through this pedicure.” #thestruggleisreal

It’s quite silly, when you think about it. And, while used lightheartedly, there are people — whether close to us or not — who are truly suffering and struggling. Cancer, death, divorce, financial ruin… sometimes in combination.

Emotions can be overwhelming for everyone involved. Learning of another’s diagnosis, another’s broken heart can wear you down. You want to be there for them, but you may not know how. You try to offer help, but it doesn’t seem like enough.

This is one of my blogs where I don’t really have an answer. I CAN offer a repeat of JJ Virgin’s advice from yesterday’s post: practice daily gratitude, and give to others, even if you don’t have that much to give. If that attitude doesn’t “fix” a situation, it might help you gain perspective.

I’d also like to propose an alternative to the struggle is real, and that is the snuggle is real.

Those are my kittens in the photo. I can be having the worst day (and believe me, I’ve had plenty of them lately), but cuddles from one or both of them is an instant mood boost. They make me smile, laugh, even cry. Releasing pent-up tears can be tremendously constructive.

Doesn’t have to be a pet, either. Snuggle with your kid. Hug a friend. Hell, hug a stranger. Well, maybe give that stranger a smile instead.

Just remember to keep it genuine. Kittens don’t have an agenda; they give you love, they get love back. They don’t ask for anything else (I mean, except for a snack at 4:30 a.m.). Selfless good will is the best kind.

Wishing you all a wonderful weekend. And, don’t forget, #thesnuggleisreal.